“If you want to live a meaningful life that makes a difference in the lives of others, you need to make a difference in your own life first. That way your motivation is pure.”
Today I had another lightbulb moment after listening to yet another fantastic interview on The Best of Hay House World Summit, this time with Cheryl Richardson.
Cheryl was talking about a chapter in her book, The Art of Extreme Self Care, entitled Let Me Disappoint You. She was saying how she discovered that the reason she hates to disappoint or upset people is because she herself hates feeling disappointed and upset.
When I heard these words, it suddenly all fell into place for me. You see, I am (and have always been) a highly sensitive person, so I am super sensitive to other people’s feelings and emotions and have spent my whole life trying to please others and not cause them any upset.
I’ve had my fair share of disappointments and upsets myself, so in a way I guess I’ve been trying to protect others from emotional pain. This is BIG for me – I’m talking, HUGE – as I have a lot of anxiety and fear around upsetting people and I never really understood why.
Over the years I have learnt to say “no” to things I don’t want to do (believe me it’s taken me long enough to get to this point), but I then fret and worry for days about whether someone is upset with me or whether I have let them down. This in itself is exhausting!
So, following Cheryl’s advice, I’m going to start practising disappointing people and being ok with it!! Not by being mean or malicious in any way, but just by saying no and setting boundaries. (Even typing this fills me with anxiety and I’m thinking to myself, “I hope my blog followers don’t think I’m a nasty, horrible person”, but that just proves exactly why I need to do this little exercise.) I’m also going to use EFT (tapping) to help me release and let go of these fears and worries.
And although this all feels quite uncomfortable at the moment, it’s as if somebody has suddenly turned the lights on in a darkened room and I know that I’ve just taken another MASSIVE step forward on my healing journey.
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Photo taken on my beach walk this morning with my phone! 🙂
Day 269, Reason 269: Today I am so very grateful for being shown the next step to take on my journey towards a life I truly love. Big thanks to Cheryl Richardson and Hay House for the inspiration!
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96 reasons to feel glad/happy/joyful to find
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