Pre-Paving The Way – Day 225 of The Pollyanna Plan

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I have never done this before – reblog one of my posts. But I’m sitting here typing this, feeling all happy and excited, because this stuff really, really works – pre-paving that is, not reblogging.

I’ve kind of been slacking in my law of attraction practices of late and in all honesty it has been showing in the results I’ve been getting and the experiences I’ve been having. You know the ones I mean? The not-so-great variety, where plans fall through, things mess up, people act in ways you were not anticipating or hoping for at all.

Then last night, as I was drifting off to sleep and wondering what I could do to turn this all around, I remembered pre-paving. So when I opened my eyes this morning, before I got out of bed, I gave it a whirl. I spent 15 minutes pre-paving my day, down to the exact details and giving thanks in advance for it all going so well.

And guess what? It’s now lunch time and things are going brilliantly, even down to the very specific details. In fact something just happened that made me laugh out loud, as it was a detail I had pre-paved, but was so unexpected that it proved to me without doubt that this stuff really does work.

Anyway, here is my post from Day 225 of The Pollyanna Plan, which explains how to do it. Happy pre-paving! :)

Originally posted on The Pollyanna Plan:

Day 225, Reason 225: Today I am so happy and very grateful that going for my blood test turned out just the way I had intended! :)

This morning, I woke up with a flutter of anxiety in my stomach in anticipation of my appointment for a blood test.

It’s not the actual blood test that worries me – I’ve had so many of them throughout my life, that I’m a seasoned pro by now – it’s the feeling really lousy afterwards that I dread. I have super low blood pressure and often feel very faint and wobbly – a feeling that can last for days afterwards.

But, as I cleaned my teeth this morning, I remembered something I had read in an Abraham-Hicks book about pre-paving. Basically, pre-paving means visualising or imagining how you’d like a situation to go ahead of time.

Pre-paving is really useful for 2 reasons:

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The Pollyanna Plan’s 5 Step Process For Dealing With Life’s Little Blips

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Sometimes in life stuff doesn’t turn out the way you had hoped. Plans fall through, or go spectacularly wrong, you don’t get the job/house/guy/girl/dream you wanted. And let’s face it, people let you down. It doesn’t feel good, it often isn’t pretty, but it happens.

Since my health has started to improve (I’m still so thankful), I’ve been getting out into the world again and experiencing “real life”, along with its blips and disappointments. And I’m the first to admit that I have been kind of floored by them and my usual Pollyanna-ish, rose tinted outlook on life has taken a hit.

But, you know what? I’m actually really grateful for these experiences – Ha! Pollyanna is back :) – because although it hasn’t been all that much fun, or any fun at all, I’ve learnt a hell of a lot.

And as I’m finding my balance again and feeling much more like my usual happy, positive self, I wanted to share this with you, in case you ever need to find your way back to your happy space again too.

So, here is The Pollyanna Plan’s 5 Step Process For Dealing With Life’s Little Blips:

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1. Allow yourself to feel your feelings, even if, like me, you’d rather be feeling something a little more positive and smiley. Accept that it’s ok to feel sad/down/disappointed/angry/betrayed/ashamed/annoyed/or any other crappy feeling. Cry or shout if you need to. We are human, we feel stuff and it’s ok to let it out. Just don’t wallow in it.

So, onto step 2….

2. Let it go. Three deceptively short, simple words. But oh, it is so much easier said than done. Believe me, I know! “How do you let it go?” I hear you ask. Well, I wish I had a magic formula, but unfortunately I’ve yet to come up with that – you’ll be the first to know if I do. I think the first step is to be WILLING to let it go, to not let it weigh you down any longer, to free yourself. If/when you catch yourself thinking about whatever is troubling you, say to yourself “I am willing to let this go”, look into the mirror and say it. Keep repeating this. Letting go is a process, it’s the same as forgiveness, it happens little by little, until one day it just isn’t there anymore and you’re not quite sure how you did it. Don’t try too hard or struggle, just be open to it.

3. Know that there is a hidden blessing for you in this somewhere, even if it’s really, really hidden and there’s no way you can see it right now. Maybe there’s a valuable lesson you can learn from this or maybe something truly, awesomely life changingly brilliant will come of it. Trust me, it’s there and one day you will look back and feel thankful.

4. Minimise your sadness. Do whatever it takes to remove reminders that keep you stuck in a bad feeling – say no to stuff you don’t want to do, take a break from anything that reminds you of it, delete, walk away, give it up, even if it’s not always the most mature/spiritual/better person thing to do. I confess to having un-friended people on Facebook. I’m not proud of it, I didn’t do it out of anger or spite. I did it to minimise sadness and that’s ok. (Please note that minimising sadness is not to be confused with intentionally hurting people or being mean!)

5. Maximise your happiness. Now, here comes the fun part: Be kind to yourself. Ask yourself  “what would I like to do today that will bring me joy?’ Play some happy music, do your own flavour of happy dance, pet your dog, call your best friend, go for a walk, meditate, breathe in the sea air, run, laugh, watch a funny movie, eat something delicious, skip out into the sunshine and find your happy space again.

You can do this, I promise you.

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Trust Yourself – You Always Know What Is Best For You

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I came across this picture on the blog, I Didn’t Have My Glasses On… and it struck me how true it is. And how even when faced with difficult, agonising choices, deep down, underneath all the chatter and weighing up of options that goes on in our minds, we intuitively know what is best for us. We just need to learn to trust that feeling more.

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Don’t Say Mean Things To Yourself

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After so many long, drawn out years of chronic illness and being cocooned at home, unable to work or to socialise, my absolute favourite thing about healing is that I can now go out into the big, wide world again. It is exhilarating, liberating, joy-bringing, yet also pretty scary at the same time.

Over the past couple of months, I’ve come to realise that it’s one thing feeling good about who you are, feeling centred, grounded and secure in your sense of self and not letting everyday life give you the wobbles when you’re on your own, safely tucked away in the quietness and comfort of your own home. But, it’s quite another thing when you are suddenly released back into the wild and interacting with real, life people again.

And the biggest revelation I’ve had during this wonderful time of transition – and believe me, it is wonderful, despite all the wobbly, scary parts – is that I am so incredibly hard on myself.

I beat myself up all the time for feeling anxious or awkward in social situations, for saying something stupid, for acting a certain way or for making mistakes, for having my very own Dirty Dancing, “I carried a watermelon” moments! – see video clip in comments section. (I absolutely love Hollie Holden’s post about this.)

I posted a picture on The Pollyanna Plan Facebook Page the other day which contained the words “don’t say mean things to yourself” and it really struck home, because I noticed that I spend a lot of the time saying very mean things to myself, feeling embarrassed and ashamed and criticising myself.

Logically, I know that this is not good in any way. That this will not help me to heal. That I need to “cut that sh*t out”! But in those moments where I’ve messed up, or when I’m feeling painfully self-conscious and wishing I had the ability to time travel and redo the whole thing again, I forgot everything I’ve ever learnt. I forget about loving myself, about feeling good enough and all that lovely spiritual stuff that I really thought I’d started to get a handle on and my harsh inner voice starts up telling me how useless and rubbish I am and what a crappy person I must be.

But today I realised something. And that something is that I would never in a million years talk to anyone else like I talk to myself. I wouldn’t even think any of that stuff about anyone else. It just wouldn’t enter my head. When friends or family come to me with their problems, I listen compassionately. I don’t judge. I offer kindness, support and most importantly, love. I tell them how great I think they are, because I genuinely see them as the beautiful, awesome people they truly are.

And it occurred to me that maybe I need to start seeing myself, talking to myself and treating myself in the exact same way. I think now is the time to dump the overly harsh, critical and downright mean voice inside my head. It’s been great knowing you and all that. Instead, I’m going to start up a relationship with an inner voice who is my best friend and supporter. Who speaks kindly and lovingly to me, who is always there for me and who loves me no matter how many times I mess up, or make mistakes or say something silly.

That’s what we all need really. Someone who is always on our side. Someone who believes in us more than we believe in ourselves and someone who would never ever, under any circumstances, say mean things to us.

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What Pollyanna Did Next

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Hello there my friends!

It’s been a while. In fact, it’s been more than a while.

I’ve taken a little break-ette from blogging over the past few months, as I wanted to focus all my energy and time on healing. Having lived with an autoimmune disease and chronic illness for so many years, and having had a very limited life for so long, I am now over-the-moon delighted, pleased, beaming from ear to ear, jumping for joy and doing my happy dance to be able to tell you that I am getting so much healthier and stronger. Really! You heard me right! :)

I have more energy, I am more resilient, I have been able to enjoy the summer for the first time in a very long time. I have been going to the beach, I even have a tan, which is a huge deal seeing as I’ve spent the majority of the past few summers in bed feeling feverish and very ill.

I’m getting out of the house regularly (!!!!), I’m making new friends, I’m re-connecting with old friends and I can now make plans and know that I’ll be able to stick to them – this is huge!

I’m walking my dogs daily, I’m seriously considering joining the gym, I’ve even thought about buying a bike so I can cycle places rather than drive. Oh and I’m driving places too, instead of having to be driven.

I’m thinking about going away on holiday, I’m planning on going to a restaurant for the first time in years (food intolerances and all) and I’m making plans for the future.

I’m feeling braver, I’m feeling more confident about being myself, I’m learning to be kinder to myself and I’m getting better and better at letting go and going with the flow.

There is still plenty of work to be done, things to heal and general improvement to be made, but I am unbelievably grateful to be very much getting there.

I labelled 2013 and the 365 days of The Pollyanna Plan – finding (and blogging about) a reason to feel glad, happy, joyful every single day for one whole year – as being the year that changed my life.

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And I’m so, so happy (did I mention that I’m happy?!) to be able to share with you that 2014 is the year that I have begun to really live life again.

So, if anyone out there is wondering if something as seemingly simple as gratitude and focusing on happy, positive feelings can make any difference to your life, you can take my word for it that it is magical, that it transforms everything for the better and that if I can do it, then so can you.

Much love to you all,

Nina xx

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Feeling Down, Lost Or Unsure? Ask For A Sign From The Universe

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I logged into Pinterest today and was a little bit stunned to see these words shining out at me from the top of the page.


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Sometimes when I’m feeling a bit down, lost or unsure, I ask the Universe to send me a sign – something very obvious, without any uncertain “I guess that could be a sign” feeling attached to it. I always know it when I see it and the Universe ALWAYS delivers. You’ve got to love that!  :)

So, I’m sharing my sign here (see picture above) with you today, in case it is your sign too. And if it’s not, but you feel like you need some direction, clarification or support in some way, then why not give it a go? Put it out there to the Universe, ask for a sign, be open to how it may appear, trust that it WILL appear at exactly the right time, then get on with your day. And believe me, you’ll be surprised and delighted by what shows up for you.

Much love to you all. 

500 Followers – THANK YOU ALL!!!!

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This morning, The Pollyanna Plan blog reached 500 followers- yipppppeeeeee! Thank you so much to you all. It really means the world to me to have your support and encouragement. You are my reason to feel glad/happy/joyful today.  :)

Sending you all a big, virtual hug and an invite to my virtual 500 followers party. Hope you’ve got your happy dancing shoes on! ;)